I wanted you to know about a specific offer of reduced tuition fees and new Fast-Track program in which you can complete you coursework and parent coaching practice within six months.

Marketing advisors tell ACPI to increase tuition because self-employment success increases sharply in economic downturn. This happens for a good reason…the market for personal services, like in health & coaching, increases.

However, ACPI is decreasing fees, and can do so because of the Fast Track program. The first group of women to attend training last October and are now receiving their certification, have given this program a five-star rating.

If you have an interest in the reduced tuition for the Fast-Track program or the Regular\Independent programs, please go to http://www.acpi.biz. The costs, the niches, the application is all available for your review. This offer is available through February 25, 2010 and is a one-time offer.

Dr. Andrew Wakefield’s conducted a study comparing vaccinated versus unvaccinated primates. His research compared the health outcomes, one of which explored bowel disease and treatment for such in 12 children with autism. Wakefield’s research  was published in The Lancet in 1998, and recently England’s General Medical, denounced the findings and asked Wakefield to retract them. To understand a summary of these issues, and read a statement from autism advocates, Jenny McCarthy and Jim Carrey on their stand for parents with autistic children, go here

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Air pollution, specifically that from automobile exhaust, can reduce a child’s IQ, even from exposure in utero. Research has already implicated PAH exposure as a cause of cancer and also cause of damage the neurological and reproductive systems. PAHs result from are produced by the burning of fossil fuels and other organic materials. The major source of PAH pollution in urban areas is automobile exhaust.

Read full story…http://www.naturalnews.com/028094_air_pollution_intelligence.html

By Dr. Caron Goode

While saying “I love you” expresses how you feel to your child, when you’re able to clearly communicate your love in a tangible way that your child understands, there’s no chance your child will miss the message. Considering your child’s interactive style when showing expressions of love helps assure that your child, without a doubt, feels love, cared for and connected.

Many parents, especially those of multiples, recognize that each child has  his or her way of learning about the world. During the toddler years, for example, a parent may recognize that one child has more success learning a new skill when he tackles it on his own, while another has more success when modeling the activity after mom or dad.

This is because each child interacts with their world differently. In fact, there are four separate and distinct categories of interactive styles. These groups include achievers, thinkers, harmonizers and influencers. While there are bits and pieces of each interactive style in all of our children, children typically exhibit one or two dominant styles that direct how they interact with their world. 

For this reason, it should be no surprise that a child’s interactive style also influences how they feel and receive love. Once you understand what your child’s interactive style is, you clearly speak their love language, connect with them on a deeper level and tangibly demonstrate your love for them in a way they’ll understand and appreciate.

Achievers tend to be children who have a great need for freedom and self-expression. These children shy away from talking about their problems and feelings, and instead love the challenge of trying something new and achieving a goal. Achievers tend to be independent and appreciate all that is concrete. They often don’t like to show or receive much affection. Parents of achievers can tangibly show their child by love by giving gifts, offering positive, purposeful praise and by acknowledging and recognizing their child’s achievements. Also don’t be afraid to challenge them to something new. They thrive on learning experientially.

Thinkers tend to be children who thoroughly examine issues. These children tend to be non-competitive with others, but set high standards for themselves. They are great team members, and loved to be involved in family activities. Thinkers tend to be perfectionists and value relationships, intimacy and trust. Parents of thinkers can tangibly show their child love by spending time with their child, discussing issues of interest, read books and magazines together, demonstrating understanding and speaking lots of positive words of affirmation to their child.

Harmonizers tend to be children who are the peacemakers of the family. These children tend to internalize their feelings and worry about those close to them. Harmonizers crave stability and value relationships. Parents of harmonizers can tangibly show their child love by setting up a weekly “date night” where they spend time doing something special together, by giving gifts, by demonstrating trust, and by modeling open and honest communication.

Influencers tend to be children who are creative and artistic. These children tend to be dreamers and love being the center of attention. Influencers tend to be affectionate and like to be around others.  Parents of influencers can tangibly show their child love by supporting and fostering their creative spirit, by sharing an interest in the arts, by doing something creative together, like an art project or writing a song, by showing lots of affection and by actively engaging their child in doing things of interest to him.

All children have a deep desire to feel loved, accepted and liked by their parents. When children experience a warm and loving parental relationship, they have increased self-esteem and confidence. Children who feel good about themselves are less likely to seek out negative attention or to engage in risky social behaviors. Considering your child’s interactive style when showing expression of love can help assure that your child, without a doubt, feels love, cared for and connected.

Dr. Goode is a licensed counselor, author of a dozen books, speaker, and parent
coach.  She is the founder of and serves on the faculty of the Academy for Coaching Parents International (www.acpi.biz). She has recently co-authored (with Tara Paterson)
the award-winning book, Raising Intuitive Children and Nurture Your Child’s Gift. Both are available at your local bookstore or on Amazon.com.

© 2010 by Dr. Caron Goode. You may reprint this article, leaving as is without changes, unless you receive permission from Dr. Goode. Email: carongoode@mac.com.

By Lloyd J. Thomas, Ph.D.

We are in the middle of the “season of giving.”  What is giving
without receiving?  Do we all give as the rose gives its fragrance to
the air?  Do we give in order to receive?  Do we give with no ability
to receive from others?  Do we give out of a sense of obligation to
the receiver?  We have all heard the expression, “the flow of life.” 
When we resist that flow, we become hardened, brittle and easily
broken.  In order to create and maintain healthy relationships, we
need to exchange energy through both giving and receiving.  I know
many people whose only sense of personal worth is dependent on how
much they give to others.  They are willing to sacrifice themselves,
even hurt themselves, in the effort to give to others.   For these
people, the flow of life is one way…always outward from them to
others.  Relationships based upon this constant giving generate guilt
in the receiver and resentment in the giver.  If I am always giving
you water, would you ever suspect I might be thirsty?

There are others who are only receivers.  These are the people who
are so needy or so selfish, they never give out to others and are
always taking from relationships.  Always getting what they want, no
matter what the cost to others.  Lately, we have seen such examples of
greed and fear in highly visible individuals and corporations… let
alone in our politics.  Relationships based upon this single direction
of energy flow, result in emptiness in the others, and guilt/anger
within the receiver.

Both chronic givers, and eternal takers suffer from psychological
stagnation.  Stagnation is like stopping the flow of your blood. 
Whenever your blood stops flowing, it begins to coagulate…to
stagnate.  Non-flowing blood gives neither oxygen nor nutrients to the
billions of cells in your body.  When the flow of energy is only one
way between people, relationships die.

The word “affluence,” comes from the Latin word “affluere,” which
means “to flow to.”   Affluence implies “to flow in abundance.”  When
we give and receive in harmonious relationship to one another,
relationships thrive and abundance is assured.

Every healthy relationship is one of giving and taking.  Giving
requires a receiver.  In order to receive, you need a giver.  
Actually, giving and receiving are the same.  They are merely
different aspects of the flow of energy between each other and between
individuals and the universe.  If either person stops that flow of
energy, he or she interrupts the “flow of life.”

In order to be healthy, happy and fulfilled yourself, you need to
intend to create health, and happiness in the relationships you have. 
Your intention needs to be to create happiness in both the giver and
receiver, because your own happiness, as well as the fulfillment of
others, is life-supportive and sustaining.   In order to create joy
through giving, you need to feel joy in the act of giving.  In order
to create abundance, you need to feel fulfilled by receiving.

In his book, “The Seven Spiritual Laws Of Success,” Deepak Chopra,
MD writes: “…Practicing the law of giving is actually very simple:
if you want joy, give joy to others;  if you want love, learn to give
love;  if you want attention and appreciation, learn to give attention
and appreciation;  if you want material affluence, help others to
become materially affluent.  In fact, the easiest way to get what you
want is to help others get what they want.”  Isn’t that a radical
notion?!  That translates:  “the best way for me to succeed in life is
to help others succeed in their lives.”  

This principle of personal success, found  most easily through
helping others to succeed, works equally well for individuals,
couples, corporations, societies, and nations.  For example,
traditional businesses operate on the principle of succeeding at the
expense of others (usually the employees).  An example of businesses
succeeding only when their employees succeed in getting what they
want, is most often found in the industry known as “network
marketing.”   Isn’t that a radical idea?! 

Chopra writes, “If you want to be blessed with all the good things in
life, learn to…bless everyone with all the good things in life.”

When we work toward the fulfillment of all our relationships through
giving and receiving in dynamic harmony, we are actually practicing
“going with the flow” of life.  Do this and you experience life, in
all its aspects, much more abundantly.   Certainly, you will find more
joy in your life during this season of giving… and receiving.

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Dr. Thomas is a licensed psychologist, author, speaker, and life
coach.  He serves on the faculty of the International University of
Professional Studies. He recently co-authored (with Patrick Williams)
the book: “Total Life Coaching: 50+ Life Lessons, Skills and
Techniques for Enhancing Your Practice…and Your Life!” (W.W. Norton
2005) It is available at your local bookstore or on Amazon.com.

Lloyd J. Thomas, Ph.D. has 30+ years experience as a Life Coach and
Licensed Psychologist.  He is available for coaching in any area
presented in “Practical Life Coaching” (formerly “Practical
Psychology”).  Initial coaching sessions are free.  Contact LJTDAT@aol.com.

Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on January 8, 2010

pparently present-day humans are fragile when it comes to fitness motivation, or so says a University of Alberta researcher who believes humiliation in a physical education class as a child can turn people off fitness for good.

Billy Strean, a professor in the U of A’s Faculty of Physical Education and Recreation, says a negative lifelong attitude towards physical activity can be determined by either a good or a bad experience, based on the personal characteristics of the coach or instructor.

Read the rest here

http://psychcentral.com/news/2010/01/08/childhood-negative-experience-taints-exercise-motivation/10641.html

by Danielle Koprowski

My Dad had two sayings I remember very distinctly from my childhood. The first was “I may not always be right, but I am never wrong.” The second, “I thought I made a mistake once, but I was wrong.” As you can imagine for a man who used these phrases often, it was rather impossible for him to admit a mistake and I am certain that the words, “I am sorry” never crossed his lips in my presence.

Never being able to admit fault and apologize is a very painful way to go though life, it is truly detrimental to relationships. Let that not be you.

For some of us, as parents, it is very difficult to admit fault and apologize to our kids, especially if your models (your parents) were anything like mine. But it can be really freeing when we are able to do this because we no longer have to be perfect, to be right all the time (or pretend that we are) and we have a way to repair our mis-steps with our kids.

Be the model for your children that teaches, it is okay to make mistakes and you can repair relationships with the words, “I am sorry.”

Question of the week: Is it a challenge for me to apologize to my kids? If so, what can I do about it?

Danielle Koprowski
Free To Be Parenting Support
ACPI Certified Coach for Parents
www.freetobeparenting.com

Language patterns apparent from the start; babies pick up traits in womb LiveScience
 
By Charles Q. Choi
Special to LiveScience

From their very first days, the cries of newborns already bear the mark of the language their parents speak, scientists now find.

French newborns tend to cry with rising melody patterns, slowly increasing in pitch from the beginning to the end, whereas German newborns seem to prefer falling melody patterns, findings that are both consistent with differences between the languages.

This suggests infants begin picking up elements of language in the womb, long before their first babble or coo.

Prenatal exposure

Prenatal exposure to language was known to influence newborns. For instance, past research showed they preferred their mother’s voice over those of others.

Still, researchers thought infants did not imitate sounds until much later on. Although three-month-old babies can match vowel sounds that adults make, this skill depends on vocal control just not physically possible much earlier.

However, when scientists recorded and analyzed the cries of 60 healthy newborns when they were three to five days old — 30 born into French-speaking families, 30 into German-speaking ones — their analysis revealed clear differences in the melodies of their cries based on their native tongue.

Imitating Mom
 
The way babies imitate melody patterns relies just on a command over their voiceboxes they had before birth, instead of the more advanced control of their vocal tracts they need for vowel sounds. As such, they can begin mimicking their mothers “at that early age,” said researcher Kathleen Wermke, a medical anthropologist at the University of Würzburg in Germany.

“Newborns are probably highly motivated to imitate their mother’s behavior in order to attract her and hence to foster bonding,” Wermke said.

The researchers conjecture that the development of spoken language is rooted in melody, and that these findings support their idea. “Music and language might have co-evolved for a certain time during evolution and share a primordial form of communication system,” Wermke told LiveScience.

by Danielle Koprowski

I had an amazing, terrifying experience today. My son, who will be 6 in one week, ran out in front of a car. Thankfully, he made it across but the incident was terrifying to me and the driver of the car. The situation is mystifying to me as in all of his 6 years he has never ran out like this. I have long since given up holding hands, although we do at times, because he has always been so conscientious, safe, aware and responsive to my direction.

Now for me as a parent coach this is where the rubber meets the road, literally. How do I react to this?

I am proud and happy to say that I kept my cool! I asked him why and quickly understood that it was an error in judgment on his part. I explained to him with great concern how dangerous the situation was, but I also let him know that we all make mistakes, that I understood, that it was okay to make mistakes and how grateful I was that he was okay.

On the drive home I was thinking about what I could do or say that would make sure that he never make that kind of mistake again. This is why we sometimes “freak out” about a situation like this or why people resort to punishment (I must do something to the child that is painful enough to insure he will not do that again). It’s all about trying to control the uncontrollable.

There truly is nothing I can do that will guarantee he never makes that mistake again. And the many things that I could do (yell, scream, try to scare him about it) may strike fear great enough to make it improbable but at what cost? Would it be him going though his life feeling that it is not okay to make a mistake, that he always has to be right? That’s pricey.

I could say to him a million times, “it’s okay to make mistakes”, but if I “freak out” when he does, the message is crystal clear that really, it’s not.

Danielle Koprowski
Free To Be Parenting Support
ACPI Certified Coach for Parents
www.freetobeparenting.com

by Danielle Koprowski

I am a big fan of doing what works for my family. I recently saw a post on Mamasource from a sleep deprived mom of an 18 month old who was trying to find a solution to her nighttime woes. She described the scenario that happens all across this country of the up and down at night going back and forth from Master Bedroom to babies room. I wrote back to her and suggested co-sleeping and the website www.cosleeping.org.

Co-sleeping is something that works for many families allowing everyone to get the rest they need. But there is some stigma in society around the issue of having children sleep with us. (I find it interesting that people are potentially more willing to allow their pets in the bed than they are their children.) Many parents opt for the crib/ separate sleeping arrangement even though it isn’t working for them because that is the social norm.

I say it’s time to buck all the social norms and do what works!

Questions of the week: What is really working well for me and my family? (Be grateful!)
How can I have resolution in the areas that are not working as well as I would like? Is there anything I think might work that I have been adverse to trying?

Danielle Koprowski
Free To Be Parenting Support
ACPI Certified Coach for Parents
www.freetobeparenting.com