Posted by: coachingparents | April 27, 2010

Today, Author Reveals Resilience & Struggles with OCD – What should parents know about OCD kids?


Today, I am happy to host Vrinda Pendred, Founding Director/Editor of Conditional Publications, a new independent publisher dedicated solely to publishing the works of authors with neurological conditions.
Their first book ‘Check Mates’ comes out on May 11,2010.

Yesterday Vrinda stopped buy Schall Adam’s blog,  and if you missed it you can go here –
This is the second stop on Vrinda’s 14-day Virtual Blog Tour to promote the launch of this ground-breaking new book. What makes it groundbreaking is that ‘Check Mates’ is a collection of short fiction and poetry either about or inspired by the struggle with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, all written by people with OCD. It is arranged into two categories, Realism and Beyond. Whether solidly real, allegorical, or completely fictionalised, all the compelling work contained in this collection portrays the true story of this greatly misunderstood condition.
It is also the first ever book of fiction written entirely by OCD authors.
I hope you will feel inspired by the interview you are about to read. If you do, be sure to sign up for the book launch reminder so you can buy ‘Check Mates’ and receive over 30 free personal development gifts on May 11,2010. To register, go to: (if you are reading this article after that date, you may buy the book directly from that page).
1. How can this book bring real hope to people who struggle with OCD?
‘Check Mates’ has been put together by about 20 writers and artists all dealing with varying forms of OCD.  Some struggle with contamination fears, some with terrible intrusive thoughts; some feel a need to straighten/adjust/check over and over until things feel ‘just right’; some are terrified they will hurt someone, against their will.
The diversity of OCD is overwhelming, and in this book we have attempted to include as many aspects as we could, to give a picture of the condition that goes far beyond the media stereotypes. Speaking as someone with OCD myself, mine has been a typical experience where, despite the diagnosis, I didn’t know just how much of my behaviour / thoughts were attributable to the condition until I began speaking to others who could relate to me.
But not everyone feels able to reach out and find others.  Many feel isolated with their diagnoses, while others have not even been diagnosed and are convinced there is something terribly wrong with them.  Hopefully this book will remind people they’re not alone or crazy – which in itself is a form of basic therapy.
2. What parents should know about OCD kids?
I wish more parents knew that it is definitely possible treat OCD through such therapies as Cognitive-Behavioural Disorder.  In fact, it has been proven that CBT produces the same positive results as medication (when medication works – it often doesn’t), but it’s far longer-lasting and carries no side effects.  I went through a course of it myself, when I was a teenager, and it transformed my life.  It was not a cure – nothing is – but it taught me the basic skills to apply whenever I felt the anxieties start to beat me down.
However, it takes a lot of patience and needs to be taken in baby steps, never straying too far out of the child’s comfort zone too soon, or else it will not work.  Please do find a good qualified therapist to take you through it.
3. What teachers should now about OCD students?
I believe parents and teachers alike should be sure to remember that all children (and even adults) suffer from some form of anxiety from time to time.  When it becomes OCD is when the anxiety starts to interfere with the child’s ability to function in life.  But as with any child at any stage of development, such anxieties deserve a certain amount of patience.  OCD is a real disorder that can, at worst, be completely disabling.  The compulsions may gain children abuse from their peers in school, and adults may misunderstood and scold the children for their strange behaviour. Please always keep an open mind and a watchful eye for this.
No, the anxieties should not be encouraged, as this will allow them to grow; however, these children are trying as best they can and need a lot of support to help them overcome their own terrifying thoughts. They deserve connection, compassion and clarity.
4. What coaches, counselors and therapists should know?
In my experience, the most important thing to be kept in mind is that drugs are not necessarily the answer.  In America in particular it seems medication has become the end-all solution to every problem, even the non-biological ones.  Wherever something can be treated through psychological therapy instead, this method should be tried first – especially with children.  I fear for a future where our kids’ brain structure and mental development has been altered by medications introduced too young in life, when a few years of good emotional and psychological / mental treatment could have saved them so much suffering.  Drugs should only be used when there is no other choice.
Be sure to follow Vrinda to her next Virtual Blog Tour stop on Wednesday April 28th, hosted by Marifran Korb at
AND… don’t forget to sign up for the book launch reminder so you can buy ‘Check Mates’ and over 30 free personal development gifts on May 11,2010. Just go to

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