Posted by: coachingparents | February 16, 2010

Being Our Kids’ Ally by Danielle Koprowski

One of the most powerful things we can do is to consciously define our role as parents. Many of us fall unaware into the roles our parents played which may or may not be serving us.

We serve ourselves and our children well when we see our role as Ally. Ally is defined as a relative; a kinsman; anything associated with another as a helper. This is a sane, loving and doable place to stand as a parent. This is what our children need from us.

Children need our help to learn to navigate their way though the world. That is our job, to help them when they need it.

Unfortunately, it is not always easy to stand in this role. Our desire, for kids to act a certain way, to be a certain way, to have particular outcomes in their lives, drives us into the role of trying to control things that are out of our control. This is why parenting can be so challenging.

Questions of the week:

What would it look like for me to be my child’s ally?
What gets in the way of me taking on this role for my kids?
What can I do today to show my child that I am their ally, that I am here to help them find their way in the world?

Danielle Koprowski
Free To Be Parenting Support
ACPI Certified Coach for Parents


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s


%d bloggers like this: