Posted by: coachingparents | November 23, 2009

Decoding Behavior- Physical Needs

by Danielle Koprowski

If you missed Decoding Behavior Part 1 or 2

When children are not delightful to be with, their behavior is telling us they have a need that requires our help. Those needs are Physical, Emotional or Sensitivity/ Temperament Issues. Let’s take a look at physical needs.
Physical needs- Is my child hungry, tired, overstimulated, understimulated, hot, cold, teething/in pain, sick…? Most of us have a pretty good handle of meeting children’s physical needs, but it is always a good idea to look here first. Sometimes we might be surprised to find unmet physical needs that are driving behaviors.

I recently took my son to a holistic doctor and he did a hair analysis test. I was shocked at the results. My son is totally healthy, has never been to the doctor for any illness, never had ear infection. He has had occasional colds but he recovers quickly. He is full of energy and is developing well cognitively. What’s more, we eat super healthy, 90% organic, most of our food comes from a local farmer and we eat a lot of raw foods. So I assumed, that his results would be good at least.

Oh my surprise to see that his body was not absorbing minerals and his mineral ratios were extremely low. The symptoms of this low ratio included being out-of touch, easily frustrated/ angered and elevated testosterone. My son definitely had those symptoms. He would often become enraged. I had thought that it was a temperament issue and had learned how to handle it gently and support him though it.

We decided to temporarily supplement minerals until we can get him back in balance and address the cause of is mal-absorption. With in one week, I saw a huge difference in his frustration/anger level. Amazing! It is sad that I dealt with this issue for so long without considering that there might be a physical/ nutritional cause. But this is a great example to us all of why it is so important to address our child’s physical needs and consider physical causes for behavior.

Danielle Koprowski
Free To Be Parenting Support
ACPI Certified Coach for Parents


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